Dear Wife

Dear Wife,

 

You don't know me but you could look at social media and easily find out how I know you. I know something about your life that is none of my business. The thing is, once upon a time people knew things about my life that were none of their business as well. 

 

No one was given a choice to know the things they knew. It was my husband who played games and lived a not so secret life. The world around me struggled with the information they had and they often questioned if they should speak the truth to the wife whose life was none of their business. 

 

Truth be told I wouldn't have believed them anyway. I would have thought they were assholes and I would have been mad at them and cut off our friendship. I wound up cutting off all the friendships in the end anyway. Not because they didn't tell me. I understood the dilemma and conundrum they felt as they spoke about me in their kitchens. 

 

"That poor women." I could hear them say. 

Now I say those same words about you. 

 

My daughter asked me if she could find you. If she could tell you what you were missing. I told her I didn't know if it would do any good. I said people find out on their own time when it's meant for them. 

 

Still I question, why do I have this information? Why do I find myself with the same information about another women that so many had about me less than a year and a half ago. 

 

Let me clarify. I used to own a gym with my husband, just like you. My husband was sleeping with a few of the athletes, just like yours. Eventually he was accused of much more by many women but it went on for 8 years before I could even hear the truth, I hope this is not you. I was in denial. However, I always knew the truth in my gut. I always felt anxiety and hated being around the gym. Do you feel that way? I'm guessing you might. 

 

Dear Wife,

You are just like me. 

You deserve better!